Most people do not understand Christianity. Even most Christians do not understand Christianity. Though God gave us laws we should follow, one of them is not "acting self righteous," and another is not pointing a finger at someone to take the attention off from the one pointing the finger. Lets start with a verse that most know. John 3:16 ESV “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. This passage is good because it tells us that we have a God who came to us in the form of a son who gave His life for us to gain eternal life and relationship with Him. You see, God loves us, but not everyone loves God. We think, if God loves us He will make sure we do not suffer any consequence for the sins of mankind.
There is one verse that explains this unselfish love of God and that is John 3:17. John 3:17 ESV For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. God's purpose for us is not to condemn us but to save us. God's means to save us is through Christ's suffering and death which He did to pay for our sins. This ransom paid in full by Christ brings forgiveness from God to us. So what does Jesus say about the commands of God. Matthew 5:17 ESV “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. Jesus fulfills the laws of God not by replacing them, but paying the price for all of us so that we might have eternal life and relationship with Him. Eternal life! Eternal life with Christ!
Jesus also says that we are to love God and our neighbor. If we love our neighbor than we have taken the first step in loving God. Mark 12:30-31 ESV 30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” Our world today wants to throw its neighbor under the bus any chance it can because we live in a me society that whines and cries about being hated, when in fact the "me society" turns around and hates everyone and thinks it has an excuse to do so. The world is the hypocrite! It says what they do is right and every sin is to be legal unless the sin is against them. The world says Christians are haters, I say the world is the hater and unfortunately Christians are very much apart of the world. However, true Christians know they themselves are sinners, and should be forgiving as God is forgiving.
One of the main Themes in the Holy Bible is forgiveness. Please understand forgiveness is not to condone sin, for sin carries a consequence. Sin is a separation from God and eternal life. We can only be brought back through forgiveness to one another and from God. Forgiveness is what keeps relationships together. Forgiveness is repaid with repentance, and repentance is forged by admitting to our sin, we have true remorse, a willingness to try not to sin, and truly wanting forgiveness. Trust me all will sin again, but that does not mean we give into sin, rather we go to God to continue to help us refrain from sin.
The one who does not forgives suffers many more times than the one not being forgiven, unless the non forgiver is not forgiven by God. When God dose not forgive us we lose our eternal life and relationship with God. When we do not forgive we suffer a consequence that causes God not to forgive us. Matthew 6:14-15 ESV 14 For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, 15 but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. You can see forgiveness is a very important part of Christianity, and self righteousness is not. Give me the consequence of forgiveness any day, it leads to life, friendship, relationship, and loving one another. More importantly forgiveness builds a better world.